I’ve been having some serious writer’s block. I don’t know why. I’ll start writing, then all of a sudden, the whole thing reads like shit, and I delete it. None of my writing has been vibing with me lately. Everything I started to write sounded so blasé. I don’t want to be one of those that churn out a bunch of
crap content. You know what I mean… the ones that post, just to post. Gross.
Although I tend to focus on makeup, planners, and home decor, I’m gonna go in a different direction with this post and talk about my goals for 2018.
So, for starters – 2017 was a mixed bag. Just like everyone else, my year came with the good and the bad. As I reflect on this past year, and what I’ve accomplished (yeah, girl!), there is plenty that I didn’t attain, which is really frustrating (hmph.). I understand things don’t happen overnight. I get that. With that being said, this new year I’ve set some goals that go a bit deeper than weight-loss/fitness and making a shit-ton of money (although, those are both on my radar – trust.).
- BE PRESENT.
For 2018, I would like to work on being present. What do I mean by that? I mean, living in the moment when it comes to my family. I have always been very career-oriented, and driven by school and my education, that these last few years have been a blur. Sometimes, I need to remind myself to slow it down. My biggest accomplishments in life are my kids. I work hard to give them what I can, but at the end of the day, it’s presence, and not presents.
- RECLAIM MY TIME.
Lord. When I think of all the instances when people have completely wasted my time, I get so pissed off. It’s the truth, and I will not apologize for this statement. Time is everything, so when people are flaky, uncommunicative, or are unreliable? Nah, girl. All my life, I have been one to appease people. Always making sure I cater to everyone’s needs, even when they were undeserving. For 2018, I will say goodbye to the people and situations who/that do not serve me. This sounds very selfish, but if there is one thing Anthony can say, it’s that I have been a total pushover all my life. This new year, moving forward, is where I rewrite my story.
- BE A BETTER COMMUNICATOR.
Who out there expects your other half to read your mind? Oh, I’m the only one? Great. Terrific. Well, this is another goal of mine. No need to get into detail about this. Enough said.
- PAY DOWN DEBT.
Jesus, Mary, and Joseph. I know I’m not the only one in this situation. I mean – according to statistics, 43.9% of every household in America is in credit card debt. It can be debilitating at times. Just when you think you have a grasp on your finances, something else gets thrown your way. Don’t get me wrong – debt is something you get yourself into, so I’m not putting blame on anyone but myself, but can we talk about student loans? Them shits will be with me for life! (ugly cry)
- BE PUNCTUAL.
This goal is so embarrassing, but I will admit. I’m a procrastinator (in certain aspects). The saying is, if you arrive 5 minutes early, you’re on time. If you arrive “on time”, then you’re late. I am known to be THAT FRIEND that arrives to every event late, and it’s horrible. I want people to respect my time? Well, need to do the same.
- BE VOCAL AND ASK FOR WHAT I WANT.
Here we go – back to expecting people to read my mind. It’s one thing for me to expect Anthony to know my every thought, but when it comes to my career and business choices, I’m going make sure that I express my wants and expectations. LOUD and CLEAR.
- STAY CONNECTED.
I always say I’m so busy… I’m so busy… but the reality is, who is ever really that busy? We prioritize by what’s important to us, which is fine. It is what it is. Life happens, but this year, I would like to spend quality time with the people in my life. Get together for one-on-one dinners (not every dinner has to be a group of 10 of us); phone conversations instead of texts, tags, or DMs… etc. A huge focus of mine will also be staying connected with my parents and siblings. You’re probably thinking, WTH? To be honest, I don’t call or visit my parents as often as I should, which is pretty shitty of me, considering they live down the street. It’s selfish, really. There are no excuses to why I don’t spend more time with them. And as for my siblings? We’ve all grown apart over the years, taking care of our own families, and living out our days the best we can. At the end of the day, family is all we really have. I would like to do better.
- WORK ON MY PASSIONS.
All I’m saying is, I would like a piece of the pie. This year, I plan on focusing on my writing and content. I thought I would join YouTube by recording tutorials, but I’m too awkward for that platform. Be expecting mini-tutorials on Instagram, more content about makeup, and extra tidbits about my love for planners, organization, and home decor/interior styling. They say it’s never too late to start following your dreams… well, I’m going to take a stab at it and see where it takes me. (Thanks, Gary V!) I think a huge reason why I never went for it is cause I was afraid of what people would think. I would always second-guess myself… my artistry isn’t good enough… I’m not as skinny as some of these chicks on social media… my makeup doesn’t compare to some of these other artists… and you know what? I say, fuck that. Fuck all of that! You are your own worst critic. I plan to share with the world my vision of beautiful make-up looks, and I look forward to collaborating and reaching out to others in the industry I can learn from.
- WEIGHT LOSS/FITNESS.
I’m pretty disappointed in myself. Of the 45 pounds I’ve lost, I gained 32 of it back. I fell off at the gym, and eating healthy became non-existent. I’m a stress-eater too. I wish I was the type to NOT eat when I stress, but I’m the complete opposite. I stuff my face every time I’m on anxiety overload. I’ve been prepping my body for the diet shift, and I look forward to easing my way back into the gym. Once I get going, I become addicted. It’s awesome! I’ve got my cousin’s wedding in June to get ready for, so a big event like that is always a great motivator.
- SMELL THE ROSES.
Slow it down. I think this item may be a bit redundant, since it’s similar to number one, but I’ll talk about it any way. Moving forward, I would like to enjoy the little things in life. It’s dawned on me that Alfonso will be 16 in February; Myli will be 13 in May; and Jojo will be 11 in May as well. W H A T? I get extremely sad thinking about how quickly time has gone by. I want to soak in as much time as I can with my babies, because before I know it, they will all be off doing their own thing.
I believe setting goals for yourself is so important. How are you supposed to excel in life and move forward if you don’t know where you’re going? I like to set goals for myself for the 1-year, 5-year, and 10-year marks.
What are some of your goals you’d like to achieve? I know some people like to keep it under wraps, which is cool. I typically keep my list to myself, but you know what? I’m going a different route this time. Speaking it into existence… it’s a new concept for me, and I like it!